This has been the update we’ve been waiting to give since we started the adoption process! It feels surreal to even type it.
We are officially matched with an expectant mother!!
We’ve been building a relationship with her over the past three weeks and have starting taking the steps to make an adoption plan.
But what we love even more about the fact that we matched is that we truly feel God picked out the perfect birth mom for us. She is beyond what we could have asked for and we are so so grateful to have connected with her.
So lets back up a bit…
We actually had an update typed up and ready to publish and send out about how we started doing our own adoption outreach. We started a Facebook page specific to our adoption journey and were just about to ask everyone we knew to help us spread the word by sharing our page and posts. While many of you saw the page on your own and immediately liked it and shared it (THANK YOU!), we ended up putting that last update on pause. After only a week of having the Facebook page up, we received a message from a woman looking for a family for her baby.
She actually found us in a Facebook group designed to help expectant mothers find adoptive families. But she commented on how well put together our Facebook page was and how much she learned about us through it. The funny this is, I had debated making this Facebook page for months and finally just did it on a whim one day. I also happened to share it in the Facebook group the very same day that this woman joined the group.
Talk about God’s perfect timing!
It’s also such a blessing that the power of technology and social media has allowed this all to happen. Which is why we made the fun cell phone photo above to capture how amazing this situation really has been. Not only did Facebook bring us together, but we were able to video chat through Facebook to deepen the connection and ensure we were a good match for each other. It’s such a cool story!
So if you’ve wondered why you haven’t seen an update from us in awhile and why our Facebook page suddenly went from posting every day to quiet the past few weeks, now you know it’s for good reason.
How we connected:
We received her very first message on May 5th so we’ve spent the last three weeks getting to know her through phone conversations, and almost daily text messages. It’s crazy how quickly we connected with her and in so many ways, she already feels like family. We never could have imagined this type of relationship and how special it would be.
We have contacted an attorney in her state and have already started taking some of the necessary steps to begin creating an adoption plan. We’re working to get everything set up to ensure she has all the support she needs. She is one of the bravest, most selfless women we’ve ever met and we want to do everything we can to be there for her.
While this is one of the happiest seasons of our lives, this is one of the most challenging for her. For us to find our baby, she has to experience an incredibly painful loss. So right now, our focus is entirely on her and how we can nurture our relationship and be sensitive to her needs.
This is HER baby. Therefore, we’re choosing to hold off on sharing too many details about the baby at this time. We’re also respecting the confidentiality of this mama and won’t be sharing any details regarding her personal life or location. Thanks for your understanding.
We will share, however, that next week…
We’re flying out to meet her!!
Again, it feels so crazy to be typing all of this. But in three days we’re headed out to go meet her and spend a couple days with her. In fact, we timed it so that we can go to her next ultrasound appointment.
Since we started this process, we’d always hoped that maybe we could get an ultrasound photo, but actually being at the appointment in person is even more of an answered prayer. We are just overwhelmed by the blessings!
We still need your prayers!
As we said, we’re focused on this expectant mother at this point. We still have several months to go in her pregnancy and building a relationship is the most important thing right now. We hope you’ll pray over our trip next week and that God will guide this relationship. We’re sure there will be some challenges that come up, as no adoption situation is perfect. There’s lots of emotions involved. Prayers for the three of us as we navigate this unknown waters would mean so much to to us all.
We’ll share another update when we return from the trip! Thanks so much for being on this journey with us. We’re getting closer and your prayers have clearly helped SO much.
Lots of love,
Dan + Lindsay